Social Media and Confirmation Bias
I have been thinking a lot lately about Social Media. It now tends to be that we present this picture perfect life on social media. We have these beautiful pictures of everyone smiling and having fun. Perfection put out there for the world to see our beautiful meals, baked goods, children and life. When anything "real" is put out there, I myself have been want to skip over it. Confirmation Bias at it's best, everyone has a better life than me, no one wants to hear about my problems. You don't see pictures of people's basements flooded with sewer water, washing machine and sump pump holes overflowing with water, or burned dinner rolls on your Instagram feed, do you? Yeah, I don't either.
So, when things are going wrong for me, or in my house, I clam up, I leave the social media room and I try to figure stuff out as best I can, call a professional, and try to root out the problem (that's a little joke as our sewer lines are FULL of roots), and try to true that the problem is then fixed when the professional says it is. That trust has been the hard part for me this time. I want to trust that things are ok for now, that the problems are at least not at a crisis point, and to keep moving on, but this all wreaks havoc on my professional life.
See, I'm the type of creative that needs order and stability to create. I do NOT thrive on whirling chaos around me like some other creatives that I have worked with in the past. I need to trust that everything else is under control in order to get down to the business of creating, and if I can't find that trust? my whole system tends to shut down. I get stuck, paralyzed in the tiny details of this problem or that problem.
Yes, I realize that this is a luxury. Most people can't drop off their whole lives because something in another area is going wrong or badly. I also also do not want it to seem like I know that I am beyond blessed to have a place to live and a husband whose job affords us all everything we have, including my ability to work this creative (yet definitely not living wage earning) job.
Just do me a favor, as I am going to do for the proverbial universal "you" out there. Next time you see a post on social media where the poster is having a rough day, please, reach out. Please confirm that their less than perfect day (and at the moment life) are real, ok, and in all reality, just temporary. Confirm humanity for all of us. :) Until next time,